There’s no such thing as “turning the straight girl”
-- about a frequent theme in my writing.
Guest Post by Raven Spencer
I realized that while not all of them, a few of my stories have a certain theme in common: The character who’s unhappy in a straight relationship until she meets the woman who can really awaken her sexuality. Sometimes, she’s aware, like Beatrice in A Perfect Dream, sometimes she has no clue about her orientation until she actually meets that woman--like Lane in Truth or Dare.
People’s sexuality, their needs and fantasies are incredibly diverse once you look past the obvious. Some have fantasies they never act on and are perfectly happy that way. Some are bound by stereotypes and boundaries. Too many myths and the ever-present slut-shaming often keep women from sufficiently exploring their sexuality. Someone who knows themselves well and identifies as straight, might experiment, but they don’t change their sexual orientation.
Aforementioned stereotypes and myths blur the truth though, and so it’s not all that odd for some women to learn later in life what they need for a healthy and happy romantic and sex life. They don’t stop being straight. They have been bi or lesbians all their lives and are only discovering it at this point. It’s a joyous moment when the pieces fall into place--confusing and intimidating, maybe, but ultimately joyous.
Don’t forget we’re talking about fiction, erotica, good times.
I love to write these stories, because I love things finally working out for these women, in their lives, in the bedroom.
And it never fails to make me wonder: If all LGBT people in the world were safe to come out, if no one was derived from their path by prejudice or the threat of losing the love of family and friends, their jobs or their lives--how many would we really be?
My guess is, many more than the numbers that are floated by politicians and social scientists. Hopefully, sometime in the future, we know. Until then, I’ll guide as many fictional characters as possible onto that beautiful, sexy journey.
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More to come.
About the author:
Raven J. Spencer, lesbian, married, loves everything sensual and indulgent which led her to write erotic romance and fantasies. When she’s not writing, you can often find her on Pinterest in the pursuit of inspiration. http://www.pinterest.com/ravenjspencer/